{"id":7087,"date":"2023-09-06T18:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-09-06T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.evdekibakicim.com\/blog\/?p=7087"},"modified":"2023-09-06T17:59:03","modified_gmt":"2023-09-06T14:59:03","slug":"bakicinizla-sorun-yasamamak-icin-ipuclari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.evdekibakicim.com\/blog\/makale\/bakicinizla-sorun-yasamamak-icin-ipuclari\/","title":{"rendered":"Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla Sorun Ya\u015famamak \u0130\u00e7in \u0130pu\u00e7lar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ailelerin bak\u0131c\u0131 konusunda en b\u00fcy\u00fck beklentisi; i\u015fini seven, donan\u0131ml\u0131 ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layacak ki\u015fiyle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. Ancak bazen i\u015fler \u00e7ok da hayal edildi\u011fi gibi gitmez. Bazen aileden, bazense \u00e7al\u0131\u015fandan kaynakl\u0131 problemler s\u0131k bak\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fimi<\/em>ne neden olabilir. Ancak gerek \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131nda, gerekse hasta\/ya\u015fl\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131nda s\u0131k s\u0131k \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan de\u011fi\u015ftirilmesi \u00f6nerilmez. Yaz\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n devam\u0131nda bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla sorun<\/strong> ya\u015famamak i\u00e7in etkili ipu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 ve problem yaratabilecek olas\u0131 nedenleri bulabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131kta S\u0131k Ya\u015fanan Sorunlar Nelerdir?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla sorun ya\u015famak istemiyorsan\u0131z, \u00f6ncelikle hangi konularda s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bilmenizde fayda var. Bu sayede pek \u00e7ok olas\u0131 problemi ya\u015fanmadan ortadan kald\u0131rabilirsiniz. \u00c7o\u011funlukla ailelerin bak\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131 ile ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 sorunlar \u015funlard\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  • G\u00f6rev tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n net olmamas\u0131<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Ailenin fazla beklenti i\u00e7inde olmas\u0131<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • G\u00f6rev tan\u0131m\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda i\u015flerin s\u0131kl\u0131kla talep edilmesi<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Aile ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan aras\u0131nda ileti\u015fim eksikli\u011fi<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Aile ve bak\u0131c\u0131 aras\u0131nda tutars\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015fanmas\u0131 <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
    \"bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla
    Bak\u0131c\u0131 se\u00e7iminde titiz ve planl\u0131 olman\u0131z, do\u011fru ki\u015fiyi bulman\u0131zda etkili olmas\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan \u00f6nemlidir<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131 Aray\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda Planl\u0131 ve Titiz Olun <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla sorun ya\u015famamak i\u00e7in, ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden itibaren planl\u0131 ve titiz olman\u0131zda fayda var. Bunun i\u00e7in de \u00f6ncelikle beklenti ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 netle\u015ftirin. Nas\u0131l biriyle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istiyorsunuz? \u00d6ncelikleriniz neler? \u00c7al\u0131\u015fma ko\u015fullar\u0131, \u00f6deyece\u011finiz \u00fccret, izin g\u00fcnleri gibi hususlar hakk\u0131nda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz? Bu tip sorulara yan\u0131t verin, hatta not al\u0131n. G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmelerinizi bu do\u011frultuda yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hem k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede sonuca ula\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z, hem de kriterlerinize uyan bak\u0131c\u0131y\u0131 bulma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 artt\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    G\u00f6rev Tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131z Net ve A\u00e7\u0131k Olsun <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131kta en s\u0131k ya\u015fanan sorunlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda g\u00f6rev tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n net olmamas\u0131 veya ailenin g\u00f6rev tan\u0131m\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fandan farkl\u0131 sorumluluklar\u0131 yerine getirmesini istemesi gelir. Bu problemi ya\u015famamak i\u00e7in ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmenizde bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131 net olun. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra ev ile ilgili herhangi bir i\u015f yapmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyor musunuz? Al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f, \u00fct\u00fc, yemek vb. beklentileriniz varsa, bunu dile getirin. Bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n bu konuda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011frenin. Beklentinizi kar\u015f\u0131layan, g\u00f6rev tan\u0131m\u0131 konusunda uzla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ki\u015fi ile \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 tercih edin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \"bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla
    Bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n aile ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131, ev d\u00fczeni size onunla ilgili pek \u00e7ok ipucu verir<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla Sorun Ya\u015famamak \u0130\u00e7in Onu Yak\u0131ndan Tan\u0131maya \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 yak\u0131ndan tan\u0131mak, onun bu i\u015fe uygun olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlaman\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar. \u0130yi bir bak\u0131c\u0131da bulunmas\u0131 gereken nitelikleri biliyorsan\u0131z, aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bu y\u00f6nde de\u011ferlendirebilirsiniz. M\u00fcmk\u00fcnse bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n ailesi ile de tan\u0131\u015fman\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6neririz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ev d\u00fczeni, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 varsa onlarla ileti\u015fimi size pek \u00e7ok ipucu verir. Yak\u0131n prensipleri benimseyen insanlar\u0131n daha kolay anla\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n. Ayr\u0131ca, kendi evi d\u00fczenli, e\u015fi ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ile pozitif bir ili\u015fkisi olan ki\u015fi sizinle ve \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla da bu dengeyi k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede kuracakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k Mesle\u011fine Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 Anlamaya \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 i\u015fe almadan \u00f6nce bu meslekle ilgili ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011frenin. \u00d6rne\u011fin; ge\u00e7ici bir i\u015f olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsa, bu sizinle uzun s\u00fcreli \u00e7al\u0131\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelir. Yine ta\u015f\u0131nma, hamilelik, sa\u011fl\u0131k problemleri, ilk deneyim gibi durumlarda da bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede i\u015fi b\u0131rakmak isteyebilir. Bu a\u00e7\u0131dan aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n uzun s\u00fcreli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na engel bir durumunun olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan ve i\u015fini sevdi\u011finden emin olun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Dinleyin <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flamadan \u00f6nce kendi beklentilerinizi payla\u015fman\u0131z kadar, bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n da kendi taleplerini ve beklentilerini size aktarmas\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir. Ortak noktada bulu\u015fabildi\u011finiz ki\u015filerle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 tercih etmek, sonras\u0131nda sorun ya\u015fama ihtimalinizi azalt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \"bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla
    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 aileden biri olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz takdirde o da sizi ve \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu daha kolay benimseyecek, ufak meselelere tak\u0131lmayacakt\u0131r<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131za Kar\u015f\u0131 Pozitif Olun <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla aran\u0131zda bir s\u0131n\u0131r olmas\u0131 kabul edilebilir ancak ona kar\u015f\u0131 bu s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131 koyarken pozitif olmay\u0131 unutmay\u0131n. \u0130leti\u015fim \u015fekliniz, bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n sizinle uzun s\u00fcreli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131nda etkili olacakt\u0131r. Di\u011fer taraftan bak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k, zor ve \u00f6zveri gerektiren bir i\u015ftir. Bu nedenle zaman zaman \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan\u0131n\u0131zla empati kurun. Ufak hatalar\u0131 \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fctmeden, konu\u015farak \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 aileden biri olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz takdirde o da sizi ve \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu daha kolay benimseyecek, ufak meselelere tak\u0131lmayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131za G\u00fcven Duydu\u011funuzu Hissettirin <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla iyi bir ili\u015fkinizin olmas\u0131 aran\u0131zdaki g\u00fcven ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmas\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00fcven sayesinde hem sizin i\u00e7iniz rahat eder, hem de \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan\u0131n\u0131z kendini daha mutlu ve huzurlu hisseder. Bu nedenle bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flamadan \u00f6nce t\u00fcm soru i\u015faretlerinize cevap bulman\u0131z \u00f6nemlidir. Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 i\u015fe ald\u0131ktan sonra s\u00fcrekli denetlemek, bir a\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 aramak, \u00e7ok kayg\u0131l\u0131 hissetmek onun a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya neden olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla Sorun Ya\u015famamak \u0130\u00e7in Bak\u0131m Anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n Ortak Oldu\u011fu Ki\u015filerle \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    \u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131nda tutarl\u0131l\u0131k, geli\u015fimsel olarak \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun kurallar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmesi ve s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 bilmesi, ona bakan ki\u015filerin ortak bir dille davranmas\u0131yla m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. \u00d6rne\u011fin; annenin izin vermedi\u011fi bir \u015feye bak\u0131c\u0131 izin veriyorsa \u00e7ocu\u011fun akl\u0131 kar\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve kurallara her zaman uyulmas\u0131 gerekmedi\u011fi sonucuna var\u0131r. Bu defa anne ile \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya, onun s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 zorlamaya ba\u015flar. Bu a\u00e7\u0131dan bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla sorun ya\u015famamak i\u00e7in sizinle uyum i\u00e7inde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilecek ki\u015fiyi bulman\u0131z gerekir. Bu sayede \u00e7ocu\u011fun akl\u0131 kar\u0131\u015fmaz, kurallar\u0131 benimser, mutlu ve huzurlu hisseder. Bu noktada \u00e7ocuk geli\u015fimi e\u011fitimi ya da bilgisi olan ki\u015filer sizin i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli bire avantajd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla Sorun Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u0130ki Taraf\u0131n da \u00c7\u00f6zmeye \u0130stekli Olmas\u0131 \u00d6nemlidir <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla aran\u0131zda zaman zaman sorunlar ya\u015fanabilir. \u00c7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck problem olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde ilk tercihinizi bak\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmekten yana kullanmay\u0131n. Bu hem yorucu bir s\u00fcre\u00e7, hem de yeniden d\u00fczen kurmak demektir. Sorunlar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda hem sizin, hem de bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n ileti\u015fime a\u00e7\u0131k olmas\u0131, konu\u015farak orta yolu bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131z en ideal \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \"bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla
    \u0130yi bir bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n sahip olmas\u0131 gereken ki\u015fisel ve mesleki nitelikleri bilmeniz, sonras\u0131nda sorun ya\u015fama ihtimalinizi en aza indirir<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131zla Sorun Ya\u015famamak \u0130\u00e7in \u0130yi Bir Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n \u00d6zelliklerini Ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131zla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden \u00f6nce iyi bir bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n sahip olmas\u0131 gereken \u00f6zellikleri bilmenizde fayda var. Genel olarak ki\u015filik \u00f6zellikleri ve mesleki nitelikleri bak\u0131m\u0131ndan;<\/p>\n\n\n\n